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Today, ill be updating you on parental pressure, on the programme feminine fancy. Enjoy reading.

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It’s a well-known fact that all parents wants to see their children excel in one way or the other regardless of all odds, yet there is a line between caring and caring too much by parents which connotes parental pressure. This is my way of welcoming you to today’s edition of feminine fancy, a programme that mirrors the society n your favorite dial radio Nigeria treasure 98.5 FM Port Harcourt. My name is Rachael onah, parental pressure is a behavior exhibited by parents that is perceived by children as indicating high unlikely or unattainable expectations in the African context as opposed to western world as children are allowed to make decision for themselves, parents don’t see it that way they feel that children are not capable enough to make total decisions for themselves, even at adult hood, one would wonder for how long would obi remain a boy. Let’s listen to this drama.

MOTHER- Christopher, Christopher, Christopher

CHRISTOPHER- yes mama, mama am coming

MOTHER- what are you doing that would take you the whole day to answer your name.

CGHRISTOPHER- Am sorry mama, mama I was busy with something

MOTHER- Busy with what?

CHRISTOPHER- Ma, i said am sorry ma, hope there is no problem

MOTHER- Anyway there is problem, a very crucial one at that even

CHRISTOPHER- Hmm, mama so what is this problem you are talking about.

MOTHER- Anyway you know is been five years, five solid years that you graduated from the university ehn, what did I do to deserve this ehn, your mates, your mates are married, your mates are making money taking their mothers abroad, what did I do, you are just, you are just lazing around in this house.

CHRISTOPHER- Mama see, mama see it’s not my fault, mama am more disturbed than you, see am just hoping on God,  just pray for God to open my way for me and mama I would take you abroad.

MOTHER- Shut up your mouth, shut up your mouth there lazy man always trying to use God and patience as an excuse for your laziness and ignorance. Anyway your father and I have decided to stop giving you money and food in this food in this house until you start making money for yourself.

CHRISTOPHER- Chai God, God what kind of situation is this, God is not my fault, I graduated from the university, had a bright future, wait I must make it, is it not that my friend spider he made it, I would go and join him sure I must do something about it, I must do something surely about it.

SPIDER- Christopher my man, how far nah, so you finally came

BOY- Sure I did oh, I did

SPIDER-Ok guys a very very important operation to execute this night. Some group of foreigners are coming with hard currency to come deposit in the bank, hmm Christopher you will be the person to enter inside the bank and collect the money from the foreigner.

BOY- No problem

SPIDER- Do you understand, I want no mistake and no excuses

BOY-Trust me boss

SPIDER- I trust you, I want a clean job oohh

BOY- Yes boss, yes boss

GOSSIPER 1- My sister have you heard

GOSSIPER 2- What!

GOSSIPER 1- You know Christopher

GOSSIPER 2- Yes, yes, yes

GOSSIPER 1- Christopher that use to stay down he has joined spider group oohh

GOSSIPER 2- Jesus!

GOSSIPER 1 – And do you know what, he used to be a good guy

GOSSIPER 2- It’s his mother oohh

GOSSIPER 1- I remember his mother use to pressure him

GOSSIPER 2- This is serious

GOSSIPER 1- And do you know the funny thing police arrested him and sentenced him to ten years in prison with hard labour, that boy would not survive oohh

GOSSIPER 2- Oh my God, Innocent boy\

GOSSIPERV 3- That good boy, I know him he is good, why would he do that

GOSSIPER 2- Parental pressure

GOSSIPER 3- He use to report to me that every time his mother would be pressuring him

GOSSIPER 2- Parental pressure

A cross section of people with whom Collins Madu interacted in the garden city, gave different reasons for which parents mount pressure on their children

(1)   Parents mount pressure on their children to success in life in different aspect, it’s for the

boys, they want them to do well as a man, so that they would be able to take care of their family in the future because as boys you don’t need to be concentrating on much cream you rub or powder but how you wake up and go out there and become something so that they can also help in the family, to their husband and their own personal family, just like that so they want the children to be good children.

(2)   So many reason you know parent would want their child to succeed base on so many factors, you would be looking at the family background which is very very important, the family name for instance, family like dangote family, you understand. They would want that name that trend to continue, you understand he is a philanthropist, you understand he is serious business man that has done good, so obviously he want his children to tell that line, you understand but ehn his own is ok because he is made already so anything he does to his children they can just follow that line even if it’s not their real calling and still do well another thing too is economic factor, you understand so many parent would want their children to, they would want to pick a course for their children to study because they feel that, that career, that area, things like doctors, engineers, lawyers you know and if the children does not want to toll that line which might not be their calling most at times so they would start mounting pressure, you understand for instance and a child that wants to be a sport person and the parent is an academia, you can see a contrast. Meanwhile you can make so much more from sport but the parent can pressurize that child at the end of the day, he would kill that career, that aspect of that child.

                       Most parents strongly believes that they know their children so well that they can predict their next move hence such parent go as far as dictating for their children what to do and what not to do at any point in time in other to help them achieve success in life, if the essence of teaching someone to catch a fish id a way of helping him stand on his own, what then would you say about parent having the believe that they always know what is best for their children.

[1] Its very simple because they are our parents and every parents wants the best for their children just as simple as that.

[2] yeah you know as a parent you ought to always feel that way that you know what is best for your child just like you now, you always feel like you know what is best for your younger ones because you feel there is difference between June and July, that is just normal but with this technological age we are now in this age of technology a lot of things are happening that even our children now know much more than we do but all the same we still talk to them because we know we have a lot to impact to them. Yes, its natural even every parent will want to be believe that we know what is best for your child because you brought turn up, things changes with time, you understand, things changes fast, the method we are using now, so parent guide their child as they are growing up, they know the strength and the weakness of  their children, that is sensitive parents, those sensitive ones model their child into the right aspect, the ones that are not sensitive will misdirect their child at the end of day the young man might not be fulfilled in his or her chosen career, so those are the things that can be pointed. In a bid to choose what is best for their children, some parents end up making decisions that turn out to be detrimental to their children well-being both physically, emotionally and even psychologically. To that effect, what are the possible risk a child can be exposed to when pressurizes by parents. Already we can say a lot of things happen this world not just in this country, a lot of things like kidnapping, like ritualist a lot of things, all these cultism and drug abuse, a lot of things, all these cultism, and drug abuse, a lot of things so and parents will really want to talk to their children they will always be themselves. Some are negative some are positive because if they pressurize, for example if that pressure is too much, the child might see his mate driving a big car, you know that aspect, you will think how does he get a car, I will like to get that kind, let me go ahead and see what I can do get that car. When a child is being pressurized by their parent, number 1,the full potential of that child will not come out, number 2, he will not be satisfied, it will be like an eye service and it is very bad, you are doing it just to please someone and anything you are doing to please someone, you won’t get the full result of that thing, so those are the issues, this fulfilment will not be there and if the fulfillment is not there, it’s a problem you understand. There is a popular adage that says it takes a whole village to raise a child, this is to say that parent rarely encounter a lot of difficulties in bringing up a child with the hope of making him or her attain a reasonable height in life. However it at the end of the expectations are not meet. How would such parents feel, of course every parent will feel so disappointed, that is why you see parents they are always up and doing the talk, I won’t say they bully the children because they talk sometimes the way you talk to child will even be much more than when you, it will be better for the child for you to use cane or something cane that child. These days parents are up and doing talking to children and trying to see that children are ok. They will be disappointed, it’s so natural when the child is not doing how he or she outfit to, you understand, it just the natural disappointment and those things can be tied to so many factors like environment, peer pressure, if  a child is not doing the career, you understand, it always end up to this particular thing, so every parent will not be happy, will feel a bit down if the child is not doing as he ought to, it’s a natural something bringing the best out of one’s child is a very important attribute of every responsible parent but mounting pressure on your child to do something unattainable or advisable Oliver de coque of the blessed memory in one of his hits song advice always do your best and leave the rest to God, that the size of our programme for today. City echoes comes your way again next week same time on your favorite dial radio Nigeria treasure 98.5fm Port Harcourt on behalf of my producer Constance egwuagu and my studio manager barryle Maxwell, my name is Rachel onah and you need to keep a date with us. Have yourself a fruitful week ahead bye now